How to make your husband happy?

The following article is a summary of the book "How to Make Your Husband Happy" by Sheikh Mohammed Abdelhaleem Hamed.

1. Beautiful Reception

After returning from work, school, travel, or whatever has separated you,

* Begin with a good greeting.

* Meet him with a cheerful face

* Beautify and perfume yourself

* Start with good news and delay any bad news until he has rested

* Receive him with loving and yearning sentences

* Make hard efforts for excellence of the food & having it ready on time.

2. Beautify and Soften the Voice

For your husband only, it shouldn't be used in front of non-mahram men (men who can marry you if you were unmarried)

3. Smelling Good and Physical Beautification

* Take good care of your body and fitness.

* Put on nice and attractive clothes and perfumes.

* Bathe regularly and, after the monthly period, remove any blood traces or bad smells.

* Avoid that your husband observes you in dirty clothes or rough shape

* Avoid prohibited types of ornamentation, e.g. tatoos

* Use the types of perfumes, colors, and clothes that the husband likes

* Change hair style, perfumes, etc. from time to time However with these things you should avoid excessiveness and, of course only act as such in front of mahrem men and women.

4. Satisfaction With What Allah (subhaanahu wa ta'aalaa) Has Allotted

* You shouldn't be depressed because your husband is poor or works in a simple job

* You should look at poor, sick, and handicapped people and remember Allah (subhaanahu wa ta'aalaa) for all that was given to you.

* You should remember that real wealth lies in faith and piety.

5. Indifference to Worldly Things

* You should not consider this world as your hope and interest.

* You should not ask your husband for many unnecessary things.

* Asceticism does not mean not to enjoy what is good and permissible (Halal), but it means that one should look forward to the Hereafter and utilize whatever Allah SWT gave them to achieve paradise (Al-Jannah).

* Encourage your husband to reduce expenses and save some money in order to give charity and feed poor and needy people.

6. Appreciation

* By the saying of the Prophet (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam), the majority of people in Hell were women because they were ungrateful and deny the good done to them.

* The result of being grateful is that your husband will love you more and will do his best to please you in more ways

* The result of being ungrateful is that your husband will be disappointed and will start asking himself: "Why should I do good to her, if she never appreciates?"

7. Devotion and Loyalty

* In particular in times of calamities in your husband's body or business e.g. an accident or a bankruptcy

* Supporting him through your own work, money, and properties if needed.

8. Compliance to Him

* In all what he commands you, unless it is prohibited (Haram)

* In Islam, the husband is the leader of the family, and the wife is his support and consultant.

9. Pleasing Him If He Is Angry

First off, try to avoid what will guarantee his anger. But if it happens that you can't, then try to appease him as follows:

* If you were mistaken, then apologize

* If he was mistaken then:

Keep still instead of arguing or

Yield you right or

Wait until he is no longer angry and discuss the matter peacefully with him.

* If he was angry because of external reasons then:

Keep silent until his anger goes

Find excuses for him, e.g. tired, problems at work, someone insulted him

* Do not ask many questions and insist on knowing what happened e.g.

1) You should tell me what happened!

2) I must know what made you so angry!

3) You are hiding something, and I have the right to know!

10. Guardianship While He is Absent

* Protect yourself from any prohibited relations

* Keep the secrets of the family, particularly intercourse and things that the husbands don't like other people to know.

* Take care of the house and children.

* Take care of his money and properties

* Do not go out of your house without his permission and put on full hijaab

* Refuse people whom he does not like to come over

* Do not allow any non-mahram man to be alone with you in any place

* Be good with his parents and relatives in his absence

11. Showing Respect for his Family and Friends

* You should welcome his guests and try to please them, especially his parents.

* You should avoid problems as much as you can with his relatives.

* You should avoid putting him is a position where he had to choose between his mother and his wife

* Show good hospitality for his guests by arranging a nice place for them to sit in, perfection of food, welcoming their wives, etc.

* Encourage him to visit his relatives and invite them to your home

12. Admirable Jealousy

* Jealousy is a sign for wife's love for her husband but it should be kept within the limits of Islam, e.g. not insulting or backbiting others disrespecting them, etc…

* You should not follow or create unfounded doubts.

13. Patience and Emotional Support

* Be patient when you face poverty and strained circumstances.

* When you face calamities and disasters that may happen to you, your husband, his and your children, relatives or properties, e.g. diseases, accidents, death, etc.

* When facing hardships in Da'wah (imprisonment, getting fired, arrested etc.

* Be patient and encourage him to keep on the path of Allah and remind him of Paradise.

* When he mistreats you, counteract his ill-treatment by good treatment.

14. Support in Obedience to Allah, Da'wah and Jihad

* Cooperate with your husband and remind him of different obligatory and voluntary worships.

* Encourage him to pray at night.

* Listen and reciting the Qur'aan individually and with your husband.

* Listen to Islamic tapes and songs individually and with your husband.

* Remember Allah subhaanahu wa ta'aalaa, much, particularly after Fajr and before Maghrib.

* Share in arranging Da'wah activities for women and children.

* Learn Islamic rules (ahkaam) and good manners ('adab) for women.

* Support your husband's activities by encouraging him, offering wise opinions, soothing his pains, etc.

* Yielding some of your rights and a part of your time with your husband for Da'wah

* Encourage him to go for Jihad when needed and remind him that you and children will be in the preservation of Allah, subhaanahu wa ta'aalaa.

15. Good Housekeeping

* Keep it clean, decorated and well arranged

* Change house arrangements from time to time to avoid boredom

* Perfect food (preparation) and prepare healthy foods

* Learn all the necessary skills for managing the house, e.g. sewing

* Learn how to raise children properly and in an Islamic way.

16. Preservation of Finances and the Family

* Do not spend from his money, even for charity without his permission unless you are sure that he agrees on this.

* Protect his house, car, etc. while he is absent.

* Keep the children in good shape, clean clothes, etc. Take care of their nutrition, health, education, manners, etc. Teach them Islam and tell them the stories of the Prophets and companions.

Taken from : Al-Haramain.org Newsletter

60 Islamic ways to get and keep your wife's love

1. Make her feel secure; (sakina- tranquillity) QUIT BEING AGGRESSIVE

2. When you go home say 'Assalamualaikum. ' (Greetings) It kicks the shaitaan out of your home!

3. Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) described the wife as a fragile vessel and said to take care of this vessel that’s fragile. Remember that there is goodness in this vessel so treat it gently.

4. When you advise her, do so in privacy, in a peaceful environment. NOT IN PUBLIC as it’s a type of slandering.

5. Be generous to your wife- it keeps her LOVED

6. Move and let her have your seat. It will warm her heart.

7. AVIOD ANGER. HOW? Keep your wudu at all times. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said if you are angry, sit down, if you’re sitting, then lie down. Follow the sunnah!

8. Look good and smell great for your wife. IT keeps the LOVE!

9. Don’t be rigid. It will break you. Prophet Mohammed – sallallahu alaihi wa sallam (SAW means “May the blessings and the peace of Allah be upon him” (Muhammad).) said 'I am the best amongst you and I am the best to my wife'. Being rigid and harsh will not bring you close to Allah and neither does it make you more of a man.

10. Listen to your wife-BE a GOOD LISTENER

11. YES to flattering NO to arguing. Arguing is like poison in a marriage. Al zawai said 'When Allah (swt) wants evil for people He will leave them to argue amongst themselves'.

12. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said to call your wives with the best name, any name she loves to hear. Prophet Mohammed sallallahu alaihi wa sallam called Aisha 'ya Aish' as an endearment.

13. Give her a pleasant surprise. I.e. if she loves watermelon, bring her one out of the blue. It will grow the love in her heart.

14. Preserve your tongue! Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said the tongue will throw people in the hell fire so watch what you say and how you say it!

15. All of us have shortcoming. Accept her shortcoming and Allah (swt) will put barakat in your marriage.

16. TELL her you appreciate her. SHOW her you appreciate her.

17. Encourage her to keep good relation with her relative, her mum and dad etc.

18. Speak with her with a topic of HER interest.

19. In front of her relative praise her. Confirm/ realize that she is wonderful, and that she is a good person in front of her family.

20. Give each other gifts. You will love each other more. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said gifts increases love.

21. Get rid of the routine once in a while, surprise her with something, it will get rid of the rust and polish it!

22. Husnul zaan- We have a demand from Allah (swt) that we have to think good of people. Think good of your spouse.

23. Ignore some of her mistakes- pretend you did not see/hear some of her small mistakes. It was a practice of Ali (RA). It’s like putting a hole in your memory. Don’t save it in your memory!

24. Increase the drops of patience, especially when she is pregnant or when she is on her monthly period.

25. Expect and respect her jealousy. Even Aisha (ra) used to get jealous.

26. Be humble. If your profession is good, respect that she is looking after your children, she is much more than you, she is the leader at home, her strength is your strength, and her success is your success.

27. Don't put your friends above your wife.

28. Help your wife at home. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam used to help his wives at home and he was the best of creation. He used to sew his own clothes.

29. Help her respect your parents, you can’t force her to love them, but she can be helped to gradually love them.

30. Show your wife she is the ideal wife.

31. Remember your wife in your duaas. It will increase the love and protect it.

32. Leave the past. It brings nothing but pain and grief. It’s not your business. The past is for Allah (swt).

33. Don't try to show her that you are doing her a favour by doing something, like buying food for the house, because in reality we are the courier of sustenance, not the providers, as Allah is the provider. It’s also a way of being humble and thankful to Allah (swt)

34. Shaitaan is your enemy, not your wife. Sometime when husband and wife are talking a fight breaks out, then shaitaan is present there as a third person so he is the real enemy. It is not enough to hate the shaitaan, but you have to see him as an enemy as Allah has commanded. Shaitaan loves divorce. HE comes everyday and sits office and asks the devils what they have done, some say i have made a person steal, or i have made someone drink etc. And one devil will say i have made a man divorce his wife, and he is crowned as the one who has done the best job.

35. Take the food and put it in her mouth. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam taught us this. It’s a blessing. The food doesn’t just go to her stomach, but straight to her heart. It increases the love and mercy between you.

36. Protect your wife from the evil of the shaitaan and mankind. She is like a precious pearl that needs protecting from the envy of human devils and shaitaan.

37. Show her your smile. Smile at your wife. IT’S A CHARITY.

38. Small problems/ challenges can become a big problem. Or if there is small thing she didn't like and you keep repeating them anyway, it will create a wall between you. Don’t ignore them as it can become big.

39. Avoid being harsh hearted and moody. Allah said of prophet (saw) 'if you were harsh hearted they (the companions) would have left you.' It confirms prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam was not harsh hearted, so GET RID OF IT.

40. Respect her thinking. It’s strength for you. Show you like her thoughts and suggestions.

41. Help her to achieve her potential and help her to dig and find success within as her success is your success.

42. Respect the intimate relationship and its boundaries. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said she is like a fragile vessel and she needs to be treated tenderly. Sometime she may not be feeling well; you must respect and appreciate that feeling.

43. Help her to take care of the children. Some men think it makes them appear less of a man but in fact it makes you appear a bigger man and more respected, especially in the sight of Allah (swt).

44. Use the gifts of the tongue and sweet talk her. Tell her she looks great, be an artist. Pick and choose gifts of the tongue.

45. Sit down and eat with her and share food with her.

46. Let her know you are travelling. Don't tell her out of the blue as it’s against Islam. Tell her the date/ time of when you are coming back also.

47. Don't leave the house as soon as trouble brews.

48. The house has privacy and secrecy. Once you take this privacy and secrecy to your friends and family you are in danger of putting a serious hole in your marriage. This secrecy stays home. Islam is against leaving them out like a garage sale for anyone to come and pick and choose.

49. Encourage each other for ibadah, i.e. plan a trip for hajj or umrah together. It increases and strengthens the love when you help each other perform a good deeds together i.e, do tahajuud together,or go to a dars together etc.

50. Know her rights, not only written in paper but engraved in your heart and engraved in your conscious.

51. Allah( swt) said 'live with your wives in kindness.' Treat them with kindness and goodness. It means in happy times and in sadness treat her with goodness and fairness.

52. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam showed that at the time of intimacy. Don’t jump on your wife like an animal!

53. When you have a dispute with your wife don’t tell everyone. It’s like leaving your wounds open to germs so be careful who you share your problems and disputes with.

54. Show your wife you really care for her health. Good health of your wife is your good health. To care for her health shows her that you love her.

55. Don’t think you are always right. No matter how good you are you have shortcomings. You are not perfect as the only one who was perfect in character was prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam Get rid of this disease.

56. Share your problems, your happiness, and your sadness with her.

57. Have mercy on her weakness. Have mercy when she is weak or strong as she is the fragile vessel. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said that your wife is a trust in your hand.

58. Remember you are her strength, someone to lean on in times of hardship.

59. Accept her as she is. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said that women are created from the rib which is bent. If you try to straighten her you will break her (divorce). Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said that you may dislike one habit in her but you will like another manner in her so accept her as she is.

60. Have good intention for your wife all the time, Allah monitors your intention and your heart at all times. Allah (s.w.t) said Among His Signs is that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.

Lost Your Job? Don't Lose Hope! by Asma bint Shameem

As world markets suffer from the ongoing global financial crisis and housing markets slump, as jobs are lost and unemployment rates rise high, as businesses close down and people don't have a source of income, you worry.

You worry about the growing global recession and its challenges. And you worry about your family, your kids, how to provide for them, how to put food on the table, how to pay the bills....

In times such as these, this is a reminder for my brothers and sisters, as the reminder always benefits the believers.

"But remind, the Reminder will benefit the believers." (Surah adh-Dhaariyaat: 55)

KEEP YOUR IMAAN STRONG

1. Remember....nothing happens except by the will and decree of Allaah:

Belief in al-qadar (the Divine decree) is one of the pillars of our Imaan, and no one’s faith is complete without it. So if you lost your job, it was by the Will and Decree of Allaah. Allaah says:

“No calamity befalls on the earth or in yourselves but it is inscribed in the Book of Decrees (al-Lawh al-Mahfooz) before We bring it into existence. Verily, that is easy for Allaah” (al-Hadeed:22)

Also the Prophet (sal Allaahu Alayhi wa sallam) said: "Know that what has passed you by was not going to befall you, and that what has befallen you was not going to pass you by. And know that victory comes with patience, relief with affliction, and ease with hardship." (Tirmidhi-Saheeh)

2. It is Allaah that provides for you and NOT your employer;

Remember that Allaah is al-Razzaaq (the Provider) and the Best of those who provide. It was Allaah who was providing you before you lost your job and it is still He that will provide you after you lost it. The one who fed you when you were in your mother's womb will also feed you when you are an adult. And it was not you who was putting food on the table for your family. Rather it was Allaah using you as a means to provide for them.

"Except for Allah, is there any other Creator who provides for you out of heaven and earth? There is no god except He. Where then do you turn?" (Surah Faatir:3)

3. Know that your provision was written for you before you were even born:

Allaah had sent an angel to write down your provision for you when you were just a few days old in your mother's womb, and you will get it, no matter what.

"(the angel) says, ‘O Lord, male or female? Doomed or blessed? What is his provision? What is his lifespan?’ And that is written in his mother’s womb.” (Bukhaari)

There is nothing that can take your provision away. And you will not die until you have had your full provision. The Prophet (sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa sallam) said:

“The Holy Spirit (Jibreel) has inspired to me that no soul will die until it has completed its appointed term and received its provision in full, so fear Allaah and do not be desperate in seeking provision, and no one of you should be tempted to seek provision by means of committing sin if it is slow in coming to him, for that which is with Allaah can only be attained by obeying Him.” (Saheeh al-Jaami’, 2085)

4. It is a test for you from Allaah:

Remember that disasters and calamities are a test of a believer’s patience. And so He will test you to see how strong you are and how you will react to His test. And know if Allaah loves a person, He tests him.

"We shall test you with something of fear and hunger, and decrease of goods, life and fruits. Give glad tidings to the patient." (al-Baqarah:155)

5. Surely, it is a means of expiation of your sins:

Calamities are a means of expiation of sin and raising one's status. The Prophet (sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa sallam) said:

“There is nothing that befalls a believer, not even a thorn that pricks him, but Allaah will record one good deed for him and will remove one bad deed from him.” (Muslim).

And he said: “Trials will continue to befall the believing man and woman, with regard to themselves, their children and their wealth, until they meet Allaah with no sin on them.” (Tirmidhi, saheeh by al-Albaani)

WHAT TO DO

1. Have tawakkul on Allaah

Always think to yourself...Allaah wouldn't decree something for me unless it was good for me. Have faith in Allaah's Words....

"But you may hate a thing although it is good for you, and may love a thing although it is evil for you. Allah knows, and you do not." (Baqarah:216)

The Prophet (sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa sallam) said: “If you put your trust in Allaah in the true sense, He will grant your provision as He grants to the birds, who go out in the morning hungry and come back full.” (Ahmad, Ibn Maajah and al-Tirmidhi).

2. Be patient

Remember that with every difficulty comes ease and with hardship comes relief.

“How wonderful is the affair of the believer, for all his affairs are good and this does not apply to anyone except the believer. If something good happens to him he is grateful, and that is good for him, and if something bad happens to him he is patient, and that is good for him.” (Muslim).

3. Review your life and make LOTS of Istighfaar

Look at your life. Is there something that you need to improve on? Is there something that you need to give up? Is there anything that may be a cause of Allaah's warning or punishment to you?

“And whatever of misfortune befalls you, it is because of what your hands have earned” [al-Shoora:30]

“A man may be deprived of provision by a sin that he commits.” (Ibn Maajah-saheeh by al-Albaani)

If there is such a thing, NOW is the time to fix yourself. Ask Allaah sincerely to forgive you and He will. There is no doubt in that.For He is al-Ghafoor, ar-Raheem.

‘Ask forgiveness from your Lord, verily, He is Oft-Forgiving. He will send rain to you in abundance, and give you increase in wealth and children, and bestow on you gardens and bestow on you rivers.’”[Nooh 71:10-12]

4. Fear Allaah and obey Him as much as you can:

Obedience is the key to the Mercy of Allaah and fearing Him (taqwa) is a means to attain all success. Allaah says:

“And whosoever fears Allaah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him to get out (from every difficulty). And He will provide him from (sources) he never could imagine. And whosoever puts his trust in Allaah, then He will suffice him. Verily, Allaah will accomplish his purpose. Indeed Allaah has set a measure for all things” [al-Talaaq:2-3]

5.Make dua and do lots of good deeds

Never forget that Dua is the weapon of the believer. Pray to Allaah with the attitude of certainty and He will surely respond. Do a lot of acts of worship, such as reading Qur’aan, fasting, giving charity, etc. This will get rid of your worry and anxiety, and give you happiness, peace of mind and success in this dunya as well as in the Hereafter.

“Whoever works righteousness — whether male or female — while he (or she) is a true believer; verily, to him We will give a good life (in this world with respect, contentment and lawful provision), and We shall pay them certainly a reward in proportion to the best of what they used to do (i.e. Paradise in the Hereafter)” (al-Nahl:97)

Also, worship at times of hardship and tribulation has a special sweetness to it and a great reward.

The Prophet (sal Allaahu Alayhi wa sallam) said: “Worshipping at times of tribulation and confusion is like migrating to join me.” (Muslim)

6. Uphold ties of kinship

If there are any family members that you have cut off from or are not on speaking terms, etc., correct that and ask them for forgiveness, even if it was not your fault.

Why?

Because the Prophet (sal Allaahu Alayhi wa sallam) said: “Whoever would like his provision to be increased and his life span to be extended, let him uphold the ties of kinship.”

7. Do your best to seek Halaal earnings.....

Work hard to find a means of living for your family, while relying on Allaah. That is a responsibility placed upon you by Him.

Imam Ahmad was asked about a man who sat in his house or in the masjid and said, “I will not do anything until my rizq comes to me.” He said, “This is a man who has no knowledge.

"Strive to do that which will benefit you and seek the help of Allaah, and do not feel helpless." (Muslim).

BUT, don't lose sight of the Aakhirah

However, do realize that this world is only temporary and the REAL life is that of the Hereafter. This world should not be the main concern of the Muslim, rather our focus should be on what we do for the Aakhirah.

The Prophet (sal Allaahu Alayhi wa sallam) said: “Whoever is mainly concerned about the Hereafter, Allaah will make him feel independent of others and will make him focused and content, and his worldly affairs will fall into place. But whoever is mainly concerned with this world, Allaah will make him feel in constant need of others and will make him distracted and unfocused, and he will get nothing of this world except what is decreed for him.” (Tirmidhi- saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’).

How many good deeds can you earn in one minute?

Seeking Forgiveness

THE HOLY QURAN :

“Alif Lam Ra.(This is) a Book with verses basic or fundamental (of established meaning) further explained in detail from One Who is Wise and Well-Acquainted (with all things): (It teaches) that you should worship none but Allah. (Say:) ‘Verily I am (sent) unto you from Him to warn and to bring glad tidings. ("And to preach thus) ‘Seek you the forgiveness of your Lord and turn to Him in repentance; that He may grant you enjoyment good (and true) for a term appointed and bestow His abounding grace on all who abound in merit! But if you turn away then I fear for you the Penalty of a Great Day.’ ”(11;1-3)

“But ask forgiveness of your Lord and turn unto Him (in repentance): for my Lord is indeed Full of mercy and loving-kindness.” (11;90)

"But Allah would not punish them while you (Muhammad) were amongst them, nor will He punish them while they seek (Allah's) Forgiveness.” (8;33)

HADITH ON IMPORTANCE OF ISTIGHFAR:

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: If anyone continually asks pardon, Allah will appoint for him a way out of every distress, and a relief from every anxiety, and will provide for him from where he did not reckon. (Abu Dawud)

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “There is (at times) some sort of shade upon my heart, and I seek forgiveness from Allah a hundred times a day.”(Muslim)

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: "By Allah! I ask for forgiveness from Allah and turn to Him in repentance more than seventy times a day."( Bukhari)

THE WAY TO DO ISTIGHFAR:

“Astaghfirullah” – “I seek Allah's forgiveness.” (Muslim),

The Prophet (peace be upon him) would say: “Astaghfiruka wa atoobu ilaik” – “I seek Your forgiveness and return unto You." (Ahmad, Muslim, at-Tirmidhi, Abu Dawud .)

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: "Whoever says, on Friday morning before the salatul fajr: ‘Astaghfirullaahalladhi laa ilaaha illa huwal hayyul qayyumu wa attuubu ilaih’ – ‘I seek the forgiveness of Allah, there is no other god except Him, the Living, the Sustaining, and I repent unto Him,’ three times, Allah will forgive his sins even if they were as abundant as the foam on the sea."

The Prophet ( peace be upon him), said, "The best supplication for forgiveness is to say, 'Allahumma anta Rabbi la ilaha illa anta, Khalaqtani wa ana 'abduka, wa ana 'ala 'ahdika wa wa'dika mastata'tu. A'udhu bika min sharri ma sana'tu, abu'u laka bini'matika 'alayya wa abu'u laka bidhanbi faghfirli innahu la yaghfirudhdhunuba illa anta (O Allah, You are my Lord, there is no god but You. You created me and I am Your servant, and I try my best to keep my covenant (faith) with You and to live in the hope of Your promise. I seek refuge in You from evil done by me. I acknowledge Your favors upon me and I acknowledge my sins. So forgive me for none forgives sins but You."') The Prophet (peace be upon him), added, "If somebody recites this during the day with firm faith in it, and dies on the same day before the evening, he will be one of the people of Paradise. And if somebody recites it at night with firm faith in it, and dies before the morning, he will be one of the people of Paradise." (Bukhari)

25 Golden Rules by the Prophet (SAW)

Hazrat Khalid Bin Waleed (RA) rewayat karty hain k aik dafa aik badu (infamous) NABI-MUAZAM JANAB RISALAT MAAB (SAW) ki khidmat main hazir hua aur arz ki...
Ya Rasool Allah ( SAW ) main Aap (SAW ) sy kuch sawal puchna chahta hun.Aap ( SAW ) ny farmaya....."Pucho........"

1. Usny arz ki.....
Main sab sy bara aalim ban-na chahta hun.
APP ( SAW ) ny farmaya..... Takwa ikteyar karo.Sab sy baray aalim ban jao gy.

2.Usny arz ki.....
Main sab sy bara ghani ban-na chahta hun.
APP ( SAW) ny farmaya.....
Qana-at ikhteyar karo.Sab sy baray ghani ban jao gy.

3. Usny arz ki.....
Main sab sy bara aadil ban-na chahta hun.
APP ( SAW ) ny farmaya.....
Jo tujhy pasand hai wohi duceron k liay pasand karo.Sab sy baray aadil ban jao gy.

4. Usny arz ki.....
Main sab sy acha aadmi ban-na chahta hun.
APP ( SAW) ny farmaya.....
Logon ko nafa pohunchao.Sab sy achay aadmi ban jao gy.

5. Usny arz ki.....
Main duceron sy zayada ALLAH ka khas banda ban-na chahta hun.
APP ( SAW ) ny farmaya.....
Allah ka zikr kasrat sy keya kro.ALLAH k khas bandon main sy ho jao gy.

6. Usny arz ki.....
Main apny eeman ko kaamil banana chahta hun.
APP ( SAW) ny farmaya.....
Apny ikhlaq achay karo.Tumhara eeman kaamil ho jy ga.

7. Usny arz ki.....
Main mohsineen main sy hona chahta hun.
APP ( SAW) ny farmaya.....
Allahki ibadat aisy kro k tum Usay dekh rahy ho.Agrchah tum Usay nahi dekh rahy hoty lakin Wo tumhain dekh raha hota hai.

8. Usny arz ki.....
Main chahta hun k ALLAH k farma-bardaron main sy ho jaun.
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Faraez ada karo.Farma-bardaron main sy ho jao gy.

9. Usny arz ki.....
Main ALLAH sy gunahon sy paak halat main milna chahta hun.
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Baad-az janabat foran gusal kr liya kro.ALLAH sy gunahon sy paak halat main milo gy.

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Main chahta hun k qayamat k din noor sy uthun.
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Apny upar aur kisi duceray per zulm na kro.Qayamat k din Allah noor sy utha-ay ga.

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Qayamat k rooz Allah mujh per reham karay.
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Apny upar bhe reham kro aur duceron per bhe reham kr.Qayamat k rooz Allah tum per reham frema-ay ga.
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Meray gunah km hon.
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Astagfar ki kasrat kro.Tumhary gunah km ker diay jain gy.

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Main logon main sab sy zayada izzat wala ban-na chahta hun.
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Main sab sy zayada taqat-war ban-na chahta hun.
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Qayamat k rooz Allah zillat sy bacha lay.
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Gunahon sy kia cheez nijat dayti hai ?
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Sab sy bari burai kia hai ?
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A Mother’s Advice To Her Daughter For Marriage

‘Abd al-Malik (RA) said: “When ‘Awf ibn Muhallim al-Shaybani, one of the most highly respected leaders of the Arab nobility during the jahiliyyah, married his daughter Umm Iyas to al-Harith ibn ‘Amr al-Kindi, she was made ready to be taken to the groom, then her mother, Umamah came into her, to advise her and said:

‘O my daughter, if it were deemed unnecessary to give you this advice because of good manners and noble descent, then it would have been unnecessary for you, because you posses these qualities, but it will serve as a reminder to those who are forgetful, and will help those who are wise.

‘O my daughter, if a woman were able to do without a husband by virtue of her father’s wealth and her need for her father, then you of all people would be most able to do without a husband, but women were created for men just as men were created for them.

‘O my daughter, you are about to leave the home in which you grew up, where you first learned to walk, to go to a place you do not know, to a companion to whom you are unfamiliar. By marrying you, he has become a master over you, so be like a servant to him, and he will become like a servant to you.

‘Take from me ten qualities, which will be a provision and a reminder for you.

‘The first and second of them are: be content in his company, and listen to and obey him, for contentment brings peace of mind, and listening to and obeying one’s husband pleases Allah.

‘The third and fourth of them are: make sure that you smell good and look good; he should not see anything ugly in you, and he should not smell anything but a pleasant smell from you. Kohl is the best kind of beautification to be found, and water is better than the rarest perfume.

‘The fifth and sixth of them are: prepare his food on time, and keep quiet when he is asleep, for raging hunger is like a burning flame, and disturbing his sleep will make him angry.

‘The seventh and eighth of them are: take care of his servants (or employees) and children, and take care of his wealth, for taking care of his wealth shows that you appreciate him, and taking care of his children and servants shows good management.

‘The ninth and tenth of them are: never disclose any of his secrets, and never disobey any of his orders, for if you disclose any of his secrets you will never feel safe from his possible betrayal, and if you disobey him, his heart will be filled with hatred towards you.

‘Be careful, O my daughter, of showing joy in front of him when he is upset, and do not show sorrow in front of him when he is happy, because the former shows a lack of judgment whilst the latter will make him unhappy.

‘Show him as much honor and respect as you can, and agree with him as much as you can, so that he will enjoy your companionship and conversation.
‘Know, O my daughter, that you will not achieve what you would like to until you put his pleasure before your own, and his wishes before yours, in whatever you like and dislike. And may Allah choose what is best for you and protect you.”

Jamharah Khutah al-‘ rab, 1/145

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